I think I accidentally got my friend to become bulimic by talking about my anorexia and how I don't feel it's okay. He was always insecure about his weight and I always tell him he's beautiful. I started to talk about my ed more lately and now he is bulimic. I don't known what to do. I feel I need to say something cuz I feel it's my fault and I care for him, but I have no idea what to say since I don't feel eds are wrong either. Help please?
I would first suggest talking to him about this, somewhere you both feel comfortable and relaxed, and perhaps starting the conversation about this with something like “Hey I’ve noticed you seem different recently, is everything okay?”
Now I don’t know everything going on in this situation, but I think that just showing concern for his wellbeing in general might be helpful and I’m not being sarcastic or anything. You obviously care about him a lot and I’d assume that he cares similarly so he’d probably value your opinions and thoughts a lot.
What I’m trying to say is just being there for him, especially since you’ve been in a similar situation, might do a world of good. Also I would highly suggest searching for blogs that might that deal with this more often/have professinals as they would be more well-informed than I would.
For example, there are some therapy, recovery and support blogs in this list. If that’s not helpful then -> http://internal-acceptance-movement.tumblr.com/post/87231996955
Also while it’s not a huge thing, maybe you could make a list of things you like about him, that aren’t things he could relate to his weight so he won’t be reminded and feel bad.
I’m really sorry that my advice is crappy, if anyone has better advice then please please please add it or send it to me so I can post it for this person cause I want to help but I don’t have the best answer.